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Something a good friend posted…

In an article in Bits and Pieces*, some suggestions are made on how to keep a disagreement from
becoming an argument:
 
Welcome the disagreement. Remember the slogan, “When two partners always agree, one of them is
not necessary.” If there is some point you haven’t thought about, be thankful if it is brought to your attention.
Perhaps this disagreement is your opportunity to be corrected before you make a serious mistake.
 
Distrust your first instinctive impression. Our first natural reaction in a disagreeable situation is to be
defensive. Be careful. Keep calm and watch out for your first reaction. It may be you at your worst, not your
best.
 
Control your temper. Remember, you can measure the size of a person by what makes him or her
angry.
 
Listen first. Give your opponents a chance to talk. Let them finish. Do not resist, defend or debate. This
only raises barriers. Try to build bridges of understanding. Don’t build higher barriers of misunderstanding.
 
Look for areas of agreement. When you have heard your opponents out, dwell first on the points and
areas on which you agree.
 
Be honest, Look for areas where you can admit error and say so. Apologize for your mistakes. It will
help disarm your opponents and reduce defensiveness.
 
Promise to think over your opponents’ ideas and study them carefully. And mean it. Your opponents
may be right. It is a lot easier at this stage to agree to think about their points than to move rapidly ahead and
find yourself in a position where your opponents can say, “We tried to tell you, but you wouldn’t listen.”
 
Thank your opponents sincerely for their interest. Anyone who takes the time to disagree with you is
interested in the same things you are. Think of them as people who really want to help you, and you may turn
your opponents into friends.
 
Postpone action to give both sides time to think through the problem. Suggest that a new meeting be
held later that day or the next day, when all the facts may be brought to bear. In preparation for this meeting, ask
yourself some hard questions:

Could my opponents be right? Partly right? Is there truth or merit in their position or argument? Is my
reaction one that will relieve the problem, or will it just relieve any frustration? Will my reaction drive my
opponents further away or draw them closer to me? Will my reaction elevate the estimation good people have of
me? Will I win or lose? What price will I have to pay if I win? If I am quiet about it, will the disagreement blow
over? Is this difficult situation an opportunity for me?

sometimes i feel so alone&frustrated when i organize things, but i forget that so easily when even one person helps me out. thank you! :)

THURSDAY IS GOING TO KILL ME.

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that I had a bunny named Asiago Cheese. When I wasn’t holding it, it transformed into mozzarella cheese and slept in a plastic container.

I wasn’t able to spend Christmas with my cousins, because they were visiting their dad this year. However, in some ways this Christmas was filled with more family than usual. 

My family should probably just buy ourselves gifts, then exchange the receipts. I bought my mom a Rutgers snuggie, because our house is cold. I thought it would be really convenient when she’s watching TV or sitting in front of the computer. However, when I was wearing my own Elmo snuggie around the house—she called it ugly and sloppy! When she opened her gift, she asked if she could exchange it for a normal blanket LOL. To be fair, I didn’t exactly love my present from her either. She got me sweaters and a hat from Aeropostale. I stopped shopping there in middle school. And the hat was hideous, but I didn’t have the heart to tell her that, because she and my dad agreed all the colours of the rainbow on it were beautiful. But the message was clear that we wanted each other to stay warm this winter! :)

Later on, my dad asked my mom if he could wear the snuggie, and she said, “Keep it!” </3

I think I measure love by food. I saw my mom holding a ‘dan ta’, or sweet egg tart on Christmas and immediately asked her if I could have one. She looked in the bread basket for another one, but couldn’t find one, so she gave me hers. I immediately refused it, but she pressed it upon me, saying that I don’t get many chances to eat dan ta anymore. True love is giving up your food <3 Thanks, mommy!

I love talking to my dad now. He always like to teach the family and tell us stories. One night my whole family (me, mommy, daddy, and brother) were lying on my parent’s bed together talking. My dad said something about how he loves to tell stories and my mom replied in Chinese that he likes to “講廢話.” I asked them what this meant, and my dad said, “What is it? Bull…shetting!” I corrected his pronunciation and for a while my whole family was lying on one bed saying: 

“Bull Shet!”

“No, bull SHIT”

“Bull..shit?”

“bullshit!”

:) <333

Also, found out that MY BROTHER HIDES SECRETS FROM ME!! :(!! I always say that he’s super awkward and stuff, but actually I have a lot that I need to learn from him. Congrats on your 4.0 in your first semester of college, lil engineer!

Also, fell asleep with daddy watching a documentary about the dangers threatening frog populations. Apparently, there is some mysterious fungi epidemic that is killing frog populations around the world. This is a horrible thing, because it adversely affects ecosystems everywhere, and could have profound implications about our actions.

All in all, a very merry christmas :)

sooooo…apparently if i wish hard enough, it gets granted. somewhat. i don’t want to wait OIAJ;OIFAJ EW ….but this is enough. i’m smiling :)

IT’S SO HARD TO BE A GOOD PERSON. but i think i will try.